Stressful and frustrating times are upon us.  Last Saturday at AJ's game he let it slip that his mother's husband got a new job that is four hours away and in about a year they are going to be moving down to be with him.  My husband and I were floored when we heard this.  Of course our first reaction was "it is not going to happen."  We have spent the past several days researching what we need to do.  We discovered that Missouri law states that the custodial parent (their mom) has to send us in writing 60 days prior to her move where they are moving to and why it is in the child's best interest.  We then have 30 days to dispute the move and have to proove why it is not in the child's best interest.  The sad thing is Missouri law sees that if the custodial parent's (their mom) spouse gets a better paying job that it is in the child's best interest to move away being stripped from their non-custodial parent.  That is messed up!  Not only in our situation but for anyone.  So my husband and I have thought about what the best case scenerio would be for us, the worst case scenerio, and the thought of asking for the boys and still paying her the monthly child support, because in the end it is the money she wants and not the boys.  I just know if the boys go with her and we are 4 hours away they are not going to turn out to be good adults.  They will have absolutely zero guidance without us around.  Educationally they will fail.  As of now with them 7 minutes from us WE are the ones that makes sure they get their school work done.  Case in point.  Brock was assigned a Science project at the beginning of the month which is due next Wednesday.  We found out from his teacher that his mother signed a committment letter stating she would see that the project gets done.  She has not asked him about starting the project or guiding him in anyway.  Luckily we found out from the teacher it was assigned so we have had him do one at our house in which he is about 75% done.  She also has NO CLUE he is working on one at our house.  This project is a big chunk of his 3rd quarter grade and if it weren't for us he wouldn't even be turning one in. Whenever my husband inquires to her about their homework she always replies...."It is their s@#*!, they are responsible for it."  Shouldn't everyone have such a caring, loving mother?  NOT!   Trust me, we have PLENTY on her that I think we could win custody.  The thing my husband and I are concerned about are the boys.  We do not want them to have to be in the middle of a big custody battle so we are trying to think of ways to settle this with her without having to go that route.  So we will see.  We are not going to go to her to let her know we know about them moving.  We want her to come to us.  She prefers to have the kids communicate for her which is totally wrong.  I am sure her mother does not know about this yet because she is another source we get our information from.  Her mother knows what a sneak and phony she is so she has a "you tell them or I will" policy.  I am grateful for her mother because most mothers would be on their childs side and deceive us right along with. Anyway...we did find out if she does not handle the move in the proper format with the courts and moves without telling us the courts will find her in contempt and custody will automatically go to us.  The one thing that really ticks me off is her husband is a low end chef.  The town they are moving to is nothing but a tourist town.  The only way he could better himself is he may be about to fill eclaires down there opposed to being a salad chef here.  It is not like this town has high class restaurants where he will be able to become a master chef. There are more high class restaurants here than there are down there.  And in the past 6 years her husband has changed jobs at least 3 times.  To me his past employment is not stable enough to consider moving far away because chances are he won't stay there either.  Just another case of Dumb and Dumber, those two.  Please keep us in prayer as we ride this one out.

On Tuesday morning I went to Hylari's school for an awards ceremony.  She received an award for being on the Principal's Honor Roll (4.0) and a medal for scoring advanced on the Mo State Communication Arts test.  I am soooo proud of her.  Of course she was "too cool" for me to take any good pictures or kiss her. 

I called in sick yesterday.  I have a sore throat and a cough and I think I was just plain stressed out from the situation with the boys.  I got up and got ready for work and once I got Hylari on the bus I decided to go back home.  I ended up going back to bed and slept from about 7:45 to 12:15.  I know I needed the extra rest.  I have 16 days until my 10 days of vacation starts.  I can hardly wait!

AJ's team won both of their games on Saturday.  They played really good.  They only have 5 games left for the season.  That is another thing that is sad.  My husband has coached AJ's football and basketball teams and if by chance the boys end up moving he will rarely, if ever, get to see him play school ball because of how far they are moving away.   

Well I best get to work since I was not here yesterday there is already a pile of stuff waiting for me to address it.

Have a great day!