Forgive me if I sound like a hag in this post.  I am in a terribly grumpy mood. 

For starters, the New Year was slightly a little over 24 hours old and my husbands ex wife started her auditions for the Dumbest Mother of Year - 2008.  Uuuuuuuuuugh! Does that woman have issues!  My husband has been divorced from her for 10 years.  I have only known my husband for 6 years so I can't speak of the 4 years prior but I know for a fact....for the past 6 years my husband has always picked the boys up at 4:30 on Wednesdays.  My husband was driving over to pick the boys up and his cell phone rings at 4:25.  It was AJ asking if he was on the way to their house.  My husband tells him he will be there in a few minutes.  AJ proceeds to tell him that their mother has them at a bank opening them up a savings account and will bring them over once they are done.  Question number 1....why, when the kids were out of school the entire day long did she decide to take them to the bank to open a savings account moments before their dad was scheduled to pick them up?  Question 2....it is great she is opening the boys a savings account but just a few weeks ago she couldn't even afford to buy AJ some deodarant so how is she going to have any money to put in their savings account?  Question 3 ....why didn't she call my husband as she was leaving her house to let him know she was running an errand and would drop them off at our house?  Ok...enough of the no brainer questions.  So, she ends up not showing up to our house with the boys until nearly 6:00PM!!! Oh....it gets better.  The boys come over to our house to eat dinner, work on homework (which is usually the only night during the week that they actually get their homework done) and spend time with us.  AJ walks through the door first and is carrying a hot dog, a bag of chips, and a large soda.  Brock walks in behind him carrying a huge long john donut, a bag of chips, and a small soda.  AJ announces that it is just a snack.  I am thinking to myself ....why? oh why? are you sending your kids into my house with junk food when I am preparing them dinner?  Then an even bigger question that I know the answers to as a stepmother that she has NO CLUE about as the biological mother.....Brock does not eat alot so why would you get him something that is JUNK FOOD before dinner because there is NO WAY he can eat dinner too....you know the meal he should be eating in order to get his vitamins and minerals??? Secondly, Brock has ADHD.......so why would you give him a huge donut and a soda when he is just 3 hours off from bedtime?  Huh.....big bad momma?   I swear that lady's brain is the size of a pea!  So the boys sit down to eat their "snack" and I started asking some question because I knew they would spill the beans.  Before asking the questions I was almost 100% sure they had not even had lunch so that was the reason for the food....she had to make it look like she did feed them.  I also knew without a shadow of doubt in my mind that she didn't pay for the food.....I was sure the boys had to buy it with their own money.  So I ask them....."Are you boys that hungry in between eating lunch and dinner?"  AJ quickly pipes up  "No, we didn't have lunch today."  Of course not....that would have required effort from their mother.  I then asked "So, you started a bank account ....what are saving for, a car?"  AJ again was quick to respond "I don't know what we are saving for.  We opened our account with $50 and they keep $45 and give back $5 so we took the $5 to go buy these snacks."  Bingo! I knew their mother wouldn't have bought the food.  She won't even spring for a pack of 50 cent gum at AJ's basketball games.  Their mother is a complete con artist.  She makes people think she is so poor yet has all these luxury items.  Many I am sure she cons her mother into buying for her.  She has conned her mother into 2 free cars!!!!  She is pathetic!   Her mother and sister know it.  I run into them from time to time when I am out and they are always telling me all this stuff. 

So of course at dinner Brock wouldn't eat a thing nor was I going to force him.  AJ ate a little but not much. 

Then my night even gets better.  Our anniversary is Monday.  Several weeks ago my husband asked me what I wanted for our anniversary and I told him a Shark Steam Mop and a hand held steamer.  He asked if I would rather have something more personal and I told him no.  As you know I enjoy cleaning and would really love having these items.  Well, since we purchased the new vinyl tiles I asked him if I could at least get the mop a little bit early so that I could get the old floor really clean before putting down the new tiles.  He agreed that would be a good idea and said we could go pick it up on Wednesday night after we took the boys home.  I then proceeded to tell him that I was going to get him an MP3 player which is something he wanted because he recently got a gym membership.  He was excited and said we would also go pick it up on Wednesday night as well. 

Ok....I have stop here and explain another thing that happened on Monday.  I had found out that the KU Orange Bowl game was Thursday night.  As a joke I called my husband on Monday and was acting all excited.  He asked what was going on with me.  I told him that I had just found out that Dr. Laura (I am a huge fan) was going to be at a local book store signing books on Thursday night from 6-8 and asked if we could go.  He said that we could.  I then said..."Even though the KU game is on" and he said...."I didn't even know it was on.  Yeah, we can still go."  I then let him know it was a joke and I was just calling to see what he would say. 

So we drop the boys off and immediately go in search for my husbands MP3 player.  We have to go to two different stores before we could find it.  He gets the MP3, an arm holder, and some different earphones.  He is good to go.  When then go on the search to find my mop.  We go to Target first because I had checked the website earlier in the day and it stated they had them in stock at the store  by our house.  We get to Target and have to get a representative who proceeds to tell us that they do not even carry it.  Great!  The old bait and switch on the website, I guess!  So we run to Sears.  My good friend works at another Sears and had purchased this mop for herself there so I knew they carried it.  We get to Sears just as they are about to close.  We run back to the department and none there either.  My husband tells me to call my friend tomorrow to see if they have any available at her store.  I said I would call her and if by chance they had one I told him that  we could drive up there to pick it up tomorrow night."  My husband quickly responds "I am not going with you."  I don't know if it was more his tone saying "I am not going with you" or what came next that ticked me off the most.  "because the KU game is on".   For one...just two days ago he had no clue the KU game was even on until I brought it to his attention with my little Dr. Laura joke.  Secondly......I am SICK AND TIRED of playing second fiddle to some sports event.  EVERYTHING in our life revolves around the game of the day that my husband needs to watch or be at.  I was so mad that I pulled the crisp $100 bill that he had given me to purchase my gift with and tried to give it back to him and he wouldn't take it.  I told him to take it or that I was tossing it onto the floor.  He wouldn't take it so I threw it down.  Of course he picked it up real quickly.  Before you think I was being out of line you have to undestand what I go through with sports.  If you had read this blog for any length of time you have heard me complain about it more than you probably cared to read.  Almost every day there is some "sports" something that my husband has to watch or be involved in. Sports is not everything.  Especially to a married man with children!!!  I have often told my husband one day he is going to be on his death bed and he is not going to be thanking God for allowing him to watch or play in every sports game.  He is going to be laying there regretting all the time he gave up with me and our kids in order to be smack in the middle of some dumb game.  I promise you if it were the other way around and we found my mop and not his MP3 we would be driving all around KC tonight looking for his MP3 all the while having the dang game blasting on the radio.  So if the KU game is that important to him then I don't want the money back.  He can keep it and I will buy my own mop.  How pathetic....the gift is for our anniversary, a celebration of our marriage and he wants me to go out by myself and buy my gift so that he can sit on the couch and watch the Orange Bowl. 

We haven't talked at all since we left Sears last night.  He did send me an email this morning saying he was sorry but I am not responding to him.  Even if I accept his apology he will still watch the dumb game tonight.  That is what is important to him.  So be it........but I am no longer a player of this "game".

 

Hello new to bravenet and was checking out journals. Hope your New Year gets better and I do hope you had a better anniversary!

Hi Sami! Oh boy, their mom sounds like she's missing a few screws. I agree with all your "no brainer" questions. ha ha! Sounds frustrating. Poor boys, their mom can't even buy them their snack foods? I bet the boys enjoy being at your house. As for your husband, he sounds sweet really. I mean to send you an email apologizing the next morning?? thats really sweet. When I get mad at my hubby for spending time working on his classic car (a 1962 ford convertible galaxy he had prior to our marriage & which he will never give up & loves) he says " well babe, at least I'm not into sports. would you rather have me watch sports all the time or work on my car once in a while" Hmmm. I think both hobbies are time consuming but I guess working on his car once in a while is better than a whole season of sports? he he. Your anniversary is Monday? Ours is on Tuesday the 15th. Oh boy. We dont have any plans right now. I didnt ask for a gift and he didnt ask what I wanted. ha ha! Oh by the way, thanks for your response to that Zoey 101 thing. I had a choice to opt out with the "family life" teaching too but I decided it was okay. Plus they dont encourage sex "as long as you wear a condom" thing. That would drive me nuts. I just think Sex really blinds kids (esp girls) to thinking they are "in love" too soon and put their goals to the side just to be with that person. iTunes is an Apple website where you can buy songs for your iPod. Anyway my dear, I always enjoy reading your blog as part of my late-night reading. he he. Stay warm ..!