Today has been a very trying day.  I spent the morning in tears at work.  This situation is hard enough and now knowing these wacko people are going to approve everything we tell Mike we disapprove of makes it that much harder.

Mike's mom called the school and told them that she was not the one that called in for Mike this morning and that his absence is not excused.  The school has now changed the absence from an excused absence to a truancy.  With the truancy Mike is going to receive 8 days of school displinary action.  Mike's mom and my husband have been playing phone tag today so we do not know who actually called in for him yet.  We did learn through the school handbook if his girlfriend did it she will receive 5 days of in school suspension.

I am so proud of Mike's mom for taking a stand and notifying the school.  Excessive absences was something we were all concerned with when he decided to be the man and move out.  Mom has now showed Mike that try as he might that avenue is not going to work.

We also found out some defeating news.  In our state it is legal for a 17 year old to move out of the parents home without permission.  The only catch is they must be able to provide for themselves.  So there is a chance we can report him as a runaway and the law will do something about it.  If not, the law does state that if the 17 year old does anything illegal he will be charged as an adult and not a minor.  Which we have already told Mike that he is too close to 18 and if he did anything the law is going to view him as an adult.  He didn't seem to care. 

His mom did tell him this morning when he called again trying to get her to call him in sick that he needed to move back home and Mike quickly responded "I will just go to school then."  As if he has it so bad. 

I think I mentioned yesterday but if I didn't one of his good friends put a comment on his Myspace that Mike was being an idiot.  I hope Mike sees that his true friends thinks he is making mistakes just like we do.  Mike had told us when we talked to him a week ago that none of his friends wanted to be his friend anymore.  Which is probably true.  His true friends that he has had for years are not the kind to mess around with drugs and alcohol.  His new little click of friends he has met in the past few years do.  Then he has his head so far up his girlfriends rear that he doesn't have time for his true friends.  His girlfriend won't allow him any guy time to be with his friends. 

The beat goes on.........unfortunately.

It looks as if intervention #3 is going to be taking place shortly.  Mike has talked to his mom and she said he basically is trying to get her to beg him to come home AND allow him to do what he wants.  Which she is being very strong and is not going to allow that to happen.  She said he called her yesterday to ask for her to call him in sick to school so that he could work on a paper.  She asked him if his girlfriend was staying home too and he said yes so his mom told him no way he was to go to school.  Well, low and behold SOMEONE called him in at school today because he is marked as absent.  My husband and Mike's mom are furious!  Either his girlfriend called him in or the grandparents did AFTER Mike's mom told him he HAD to go to school.  And if the grandparents did it they have NO authority to do so.  It is incredibly hard for the 3 of us parents to do the right thing for our son when we have to work against these crazy people who are encouraging everything on Mike's side.  I know Mike is not mature enough to see it but for crying out loud.......he comes from good people and why on earth is he picking to be with people who from my point of view are plain nuts???  My sister graduated with the Chief of Police over the town the Mike lives in and she has told us to say the word and she will call him to step in and help us.  We just do not know what to do.  Sure, we can have the police go over and pull him out of the grandparents house but he is just going to go back.  And I am sure the grandparents will welcome him back with open arms despite what we are saying or the police are saying.  They obviously didn't do too well in raising their children if they have a daughter who chose a man over her own child and then had to raise their grandchild because of that.  And now their daughter is back living at home at 30 something years of age!  Everyone keeps telling us that Mike will come around and to let him learn his lesson.  Logically we know that is what he needs to do.  But we are so afraid that he is going to make mistakes that are going to effect the rest of his life. That is what we want to save him from.  We want him to see the world of opportunity he has right now laying at his feet if he would just pick it up.  Instead he wants to walk backwards and make everything way harder on himself.  It is so hard to watch your child fail.  You spend your whole life investing in and helping them to succeed.  This is one of the most hardest and most painful things I have ever had to do.  And what hurts the most is he does not want our influence at all.  He wants the influence of some wacky people just because they will let him do what he wants to do. 

I am too frustrated to write anymore.  I do want to ask for prayers for Jaxon and his momma.  It sounds like they all had a rough night.  Please pray for them and ask 5 others to do the same.  The power of prayer works!

Have a great day!